Mother of the Bride – Style Guide

Rightfully, on the day of the wedding, all the eyes are on the bride, but that does not mean that the mother of the bride is off the hook. The mother of the bride is the second most important person at the wedding (from the bride’s side). Therefore, it is crucial that the mother of the bride pays attention to what she is wearing.

The three things that a mother needs to keep in mind when she is looking for dresses are:

  • Color
  • Etiquette
  • Style


The thing that every mother needs to keep in mind that it is UNACCEPTABLE to wear the same colored dress as the bride. Therefore, the color white, champagne, or cream are out. Similarly, it is not okay to wear black as it is portrayed as a color of mourning. Although, wearing a black dress to the bridal party can be acceptable. Colors to avoid would be red, bright and flashy colors like that could make you seem like the center of attention rather than the bride.

Trends are always changing and the way the dress is styled could affect the color that you are choosing to wear. A smart choice is to go to the bride if there are any doubts about the dress.

Wearing a color from the same color palette at the bridal party is acceptable, but having a different shade could help you stand out. If there are any colors in the wedding theme, you could ask the bride for options as she could help you choose a good color that complements you.


The bride should always be talked to when the mother is going dress shopping. She may have some expectations for her mother, therefore; it is always good to ask.

The mother of the bride should always complement the bride’s choices. The mother needs to live up to the formal expectations. The mother can choose her outfit before the bride in respect for her daughter’s wedding. However, both the mothers (bride and groom’s) should talk to each other so there is no clash of outfits.


When choosing the style of the dress, keeping personality in mind is more important than “age appropriation.” There are many options available when it comes to the style of the dress that could allow the mother of the bride to look glamorous without looking too extra.

The most important thing for the mother of the bride is to reflect her spirit, not her age. Alterations such as sheer sleeves or lace to add a discreet décolletage allows you to look fashion-forward without overpowering the bride.

If you choose a dress that can be worn to other events as well, will be a good investment. Buying a good dress will make you feel good and will be rewarding as you can wear it easily on different occasions. Keep in mind; you can always get simple alterations to upgrade the dress if you want.

Final Word

The best thing to do is talk to the bride, as she will provide you with the best advice!


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The History and the tradition of the Bridal Veil.

In ancient wedding rituals, the lifting of the veil (blusher) symbolizes the groom taking possession of the wife, protecting the bride from evil spirits, the revelation of the bride by her parents, to the groom, for his approval. In Medieval times, it was worn as a symbol of purity and chastity.  In arranged marriages, the veil was used to save everyone embarrassment, that the groom might not like the bride whom he sees for the first time, at their wedding.  In many religions, the veil symbolizes humility and respect before God, during a religious ceremony. During Victorian times, the Royals had the longest veils and the longest trains, which symbolized their status.

Today, generally, we assume the groom has seen his bride and won’t be disappointed and that the evil spirits most likely don’t exist.  So the tradition of the veil is more of a finishing touch to the brides attire.  A veil not only ties together the whole bridal look, but choosing a veil is almost as personal and emotional of a decision as selecting the gown itself.  9 out of 10 bridal entourages wind up crying the minute a veil is put on the bride, who is standing before them, in the gown she just said yes to!  Why?  Because it becomes so real, right then and there.

There are so many styles of veils, that it almost seems that no two veils are alike.  From raw or cut edged veils, to beaded or ribbon edged veils, the possibilities are truly endless.  But here are some basic veil terminologies that can help decide which veil is right for you.

Basic and most common Veil Styles:

Shoulder or fly away veil:  These are typically shorter veils, usually at shoulder or just below the shoulder in length.  They are usually a raw or cut edge, meaning there is nothing trimming the veil.  It’s just short and sweet.

Elbow Length:  Veil will be just at elbow length.

Fingertip Length:  Is just what it alludes to, the veil will end just at your fingertips.  This is a very common veil length because it’s not too light and it’s not too heavy.  It can be raw edge or trimmed with beading, lace or anything.

Waltz Length:  Typically about 60” long.  This is in between fingertip and chapel length veils.

Chapel Length:  Usually runs between 90”-108”

Cathedral Length:  Usually runs between 108” and 120”, but these are the super long and dramatic veils you will typically see for effect.

Keep in mind that veil length is not the only decision you will need to make.  You may also want a blusher.  That’s the piece that actually covers your face.  Often times, bridal salons make the blushers detachable, so the bride can keep the veil on for the rest of the evening and just remove the facial veil or blusher, as we refer to it.

Edging and trim of the veil is what we look for to help match the look of the bridal gown.  All of these options are what make each bride stand apart from the next one.  No two brides usually look the same.  Accessorizing the bridal gown is key to personalizing each bride.










Tips for Choosing the Perfect Bridesmaid Dress

Just like foreground is incomplete without background, similarly, a bride is incomplete without her bridesmaids. Your bridesmaids draw a perfect picture for you so you can walk right in front of it, all dolled up in your beautiful white dress. You have chosen them to be your bridesmaids because you know they are an important part of your life and you would want them all by your side when you say, “I do”.  Now what would be a more perfect way to thank your bridesmaid for their valuable presence other than making sure they are dressed to perfection?

We have heard many stories and watched many movies where the bridesmaids are never happy with their dresses. So much that it has become conditioned into our minds to think that something will always go wrong with the bridesmaid’s dress. To crush that stereotype and of course, to make sure your bridesmaid remains content with what you chose for her, here are some tips you, as a bride, should keep in mind.

§  It’s not necessary to make an obvious color match

You do not want your bridesmaid to look back at the wedding photos and curse you for making them look uncoordinated and misfit in the whole picture. When picking their dresses, make sure to incorporate some element of your wedding theme in their dresses, even if you are not going for the obvious color match. Like we said it earlier, your bridesmaids complete the picture on your big day.

§  Consider their individual style

Selecting a single color and same fit for all is a very common and the easiest approach when it comes to choosing the dresses for your bridesmaids. Even if it is your day, you still have to consider the individual style of each of your bridesmaids, you have to consider their choice of necklines, hem lengths, sleeve design etc., so they can maintain their own unique charm.

§  You can always consider going for contrasting colors

Your bridesmaid would probably not mind if you decide to make them outstand. Contrasting colors allow you to make a bold statement. Gold with white, navy blue with white, magenta with pastel green – choices are many.  This way, there will be no color clash, and it will give a wider scope to the whole scenario.

§  Set an affordable budget beforehand

Typically, the bride pays for the bridesmaid’s dress, as a token of gratitude. However, if you are not following that trend then have a discussion before going to shop for the dresses. Set a budget that suits everyone so no one feels left out in anyway.

§  Have a fitting session a week before the wedding

Do not leave anything for the last minute – this is the first rule of having a perfect wedding. Even if you checked the dress fitting at the time you purchased them, ask your girls to check them again a week ago. It is quite common for bride and the bridesmaid to eat more under wedding stress and gain extra weight. So, have the dressed checked for fitting once again and if any alterations need to be made, get an appointments to a seamstress so you will have one less thing to worry about on your wedding day.