How to Choose the Song for Your First Dance
Depending on the couple, choosing that special song that will play during your first dance as a couple can either be very easy or extremely stressful. Once you begin to realize how many options there are and how this one song is supposed to musically represent the two of you as a couple, pressure can begin to rise.
Maybe you’re a couple who are dreading the first dance. Or maybe you can’t wait for the chance to perform a specially choreographed routine. Or if you’re really unlucky, one of you is dreading it and one wants to put on a show! No matter where you find yourselves as your special day approaches, we have answers for you.
To start the selection process talk about what kind of mood you want to set. Are you having a very traditional wedding or are you more of the rebel type? Are you a couple who are constantly laughing and joking around? Or are you shyer and reserved? Your first dance song should reflect your style and taste. Once you know the mood you want to set figure out if there’s already a song that has special meaning for you. Think the first kiss, first “I love you”, or consider bands or concerts you’ve attended. Chances are one of those songs will fit the bill just perfectly.
After you’ve narrowed your list down to 3 or 4 songs, consider the tempo, the lyrics and the length of the song. Some songs just move too fast for a first dance feel and others last way too long. Still, other songs that have a beautiful melody have lyrics that don’t work for a wedding. This might be a good time to have a talk with your DJ. As a professional, they have worked at hundreds if not thousands of weddings and have seen everything. They can listen to your ideas and concerns and make recommendations that will work for both of you.
If you decide to do a choreographed dance you should get started 4-6 months in advance. That way, by the time the wedding day arrives, you will feel comfortable about the choreography and can focus on your partner and enjoy this special moment together.
If you’re nervous about your dancing skills don’t worry. If you can walk, you can dance. Try dancing with your partner at home until you feel comfortable together. Leave out the fancy moves and just enjoy being close.
Whatever you decide, keep in mind that the dance and the entire day goes by quickly. Before you know it you’ll be heading off to begin life as a newly married couple. Hopefully, your first dance will be the beginning of many special moments you will share on the dance floor.