How to Write the Best Wedding Vows
Writing Wedding Vows
5 Ways That Will Make It Easier
Wedding vows are the most emotional and intimate moment of any wedding. Wedding vows are supposed to be heartfelt and honest, and this is why writing them can seem intimidating. Since this is the time that everyone has been waiting for, the bride or groom need to make sure he or she is spending a good amount of time on these vows.
Step 1: Be On the Same Page as All Your Guests
Before you write the vows, you need to ask the authority, your future spouse, and immediate relatives if they will be ok with personalized vows. There are some religions that demand the person to use the traditional wording, while the others lets you write them the way you want to only if you add certain phrases. Both, you and your partner need to be willing to do it. They can be written individually or together, whatever you both prefer.
Step 2: Answer Questions
Make sure that you are answering the simple questions in your vows. Even if you think the answer to the questions might be irrelevant for your wedding vow, it is important that you answer it. Answering the question could allow you to step outside the box and help you think of new ideas. The questions that you must keep in mind are:
- What is the one thing you love about your partner?
- What is your favorite memory with your partner?
- When did you KNOW this was the person you wanted to marry?
- What does marriage mean to you?
- What might change after you get married?
- What is one thing you want to promise your partner?
Step 3: Do Some Research
Read other wedding vows, listen to love songs, read love stories, take reference from poems, but make it true to yourself.
Step 4: Check If It Goes Together
Take all the notes that you have written or highlighted and put it together. Try choosing the best material that you have so that the wedding vows that you are writing are the best. You can take a sentence or two from your favorite literature, add the answers that you wrote for the questions and do not forget to finish your speech with a vow (add, “I promise” or “I vow”). You can add an element of comedy but do not overdo it.
Step 5: Practice is Key
Even though you are allowed to be holding the paper that has everything written on, make sure you have practiced. Making eye contact with your spouse in front of you will add more emotion to the speech. Practice in front of you a mirror, your best friend, or a sibling that will promise to keep your vows a secret. Try not to stress too much about it and you will be good to go!
Your Big Day
Even though it will be your big day, make sure you are delivering everything with ease. try staying calm and collected to make sure that everyone is having a good time.